This tactic is always a favored one in circumstances where you have blamer’s, bullies, and power seekers; like authoritarian families and totalitarian governments.
In the modern era, the Mc Carthy Era style of “guilt by accusation” was an example and dark warning of how effective verbal abuse can draw other fearful and hateful abusers together in a quest to diminish another.
The bully mentality is at the top of the list for these behaviors.
It is vague because there are so many ways in which it can be perpetrated.This justification, when fully unconscious, as it is most of the time, will manifest itself eventually in the abusers words.“If you weren’t this way or that, if you didn’t do this thing or that, if you didn’t say this or that, etc.” Neurosis and avoidance behaviors tend to arise from this type of abuse but ironically so does the “co-dependent” relationship where the recipient has learned that although the attention is painful and negative, it was the wavelength upon which signals of love were conveyed. But there are men who allow the same kind of abuse.A general term for various behaviours which may be aggressive, coercive or controlling, destructive, harassing, intimidating, isolating, or threatening, that a batterer or abuser may use to control a domestic partner, child or other victim.Public health Any of various behaviors–aggressive, coercive or controlling, destructive, harassing, intimidating, isolating, threatening–which a batterer may use to control a domestic partner/victim. Then following that act with either a denial of the event or blaming the cause on the recipient.Abuse strategies of this nature, happen most frequently between intimates where one tends to be the object and the other the perpetrator.Verbal abuse involves sarcasm, invalidating the other person instead of the person’s idea.Name calling, lying, withholding information, or refusing to acknowledge the issues created with another is also an expression of this type of abuse.(Below is a chart that shows the emotional journey of an “abuse cycle”.) There are five main categories of abuse. Each type of abuse as listed below are sequential and will tend to build upon each other.To abuse someone emotionally often rests on the betray of a trust.