It's amazing what a) being permanently in the same city and b) having stable jobs can do for a relationship. People I know who married young (22 or younger) tend to end up divorced (or wanting divorce) by the time they reach their mid to late 30s.
That’s fair – and hey, every once in awhile it works.The millennials who “refuse to get married” trend is not necessarily a bad move, a new study from dating site e Harmony found: It showed the longer people wait to marry, the happier they are in relationships.The survey, conducted by Harris Insights & Analytics, surveyed people on the success of their relationships and found that couples who waited longer after meeting and got to know each other before marrying scored higher on a “happiness index.” In fact, the unhappiest group said they got married because “it was time,” while the happiest cited “love.” “There is pressure from culture and family and friends to pick somebody to marry at a certain time,” Grant Langston, chief executive officer of e Harmony said.“That is a terrible idea — people need to push back on that idea because relationships prove more successful if they do.” Lowry is one of many people in her age group waiting longer to tie the knot.The average age for marriage is now 27 for women and 29 for men compared to 21 years for women and 23 years old for men in 1963 — and that is if they get married at all.)The longer a couple dates before a proposal, the less likely they are to divorce.In essence, if you spend three years dating before you tie the knot, you are much more likely to discover whether you are long-term compatible than a couple that falls in love, ties the knot, and tries to figure it out AFTER the wedding. The longer you date, the better you (should) know your prospective mate.She said marriage has long been part of the plan for the couple, but they both wanted to finish their degrees, get settled into careers, and her partner wanted to attack his student loans before they committed to marriage.“For us, we’ll enter marriage in a stable and healthy financial situation, even though he has some student loan debts, and we know that being open with each other about money and being in a good situation does automatically remove some of the common tension of marriage,” she said.(And yes, I know there are second marriages where the couple decides not to make a big deal about the wedding.Just know that these marriages fail two-thirds of the time also!