There have been a thousand or more articles written about how to have a successful long-term relationship or marriage, but none that seem to capture some of the core ingredients I’ve found important in relationships. Before I begin, however, it’s important to dispel a common relationship myth — relationships are (or should be) easy. The grass always looks greener in other people’s lives, because few people share the truth of the amount of work that goes into relationships (hence why 50% of marriages end in divorce).Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work.Love conquers a lot of things, but it is no match for living day-in and day-out with another human being (especially if you’ve spent years on your own).Prepare yourself for this challenge by choosing what arguments you want to turn into a full blown battle.But it's still important for fully grown adults, too. But that works both ways; "if you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. "Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the 'good touch', which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world."7.So compliment your partner when they deserve it, and try not to look for things they do wrong. Say "I love you" and "have a good day" every morning Seems obvious, but it's an important one.Communicate Relationships live and die not by the sword, but by the amount of discussion.
Check in with them throughout the day Calling your partner to see how their day is going is "a great way to adjust expectations so that you're more in sync when you connect after work." So if your other half has had a nightmare of a day, you know what to expect.
Hold hands Next time you're out together, make sure you're in sync by holding one another's hand. Always trust and try to forgive Obviously this depends on the severity of your disagreement, but as a general rule Dr. Goulston urges us to hug our partner every single day (if circumstance allows).
Goulston thinks it's key to make "trusting and forgiving, rather than distrusting and begrudging" your default setting after an argument. Focus on what they do right, not what they do wrong Positive reinforcement is an age-old concept used with children, and even the training of animals. "Our skin has a memory of 'good touch' (loved), 'bad touch' (abused) and 'no touch' (neglected)," he explains.
And you can probably get the Ben & Jerry's in, in an attempt to cheer them up.10.
Be proud to be seen together We know there's a line between a sweet show affection and blatant PDAs, but Dr.