” checklist, so it’s okay if you don’t identify or agree with any of them.
I think that most young men in this situation look upon it with unbridled glee.
For many men, a sight like that is like being invited into the playground of their dreams and told to run wild. I wanted to identify all of the bits and pieces that I knew were supposed to be down there and see how they were all oriented relative to one another.
Needless to say, I now look at this event as one of the big red flags that should’ve clued me in that I was asexual years ago. When dealing with sex and physical closeness, you put an emphasis on trying to make the right moves, like touching the right place in the right way, instead of focusing on the emotional aspects.
She wanted it, she was into it, she had been craving that moment for months, while I just didn’t have any of that.
You had sex because that’s what you were “supposed to do”.