Of these three relationships, the Scriptures only speak of romantic attraction and desire being expressed in marriage.Song of Songs gives a beautiful picture of the feelings and expression of romantic desire and attraction.It can involve affection as we work together in Christ, but affection is not a necessary element.We are commanded in the Scriptures to show love to all believers, but we are not commanded to make all believers our friends.It shows that God desires that they enjoy the blessings of the union He created.Song of Songs 1:2 says “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for your love is more delightful than wine.” Husbands and wives are to rejoice in each other’s love both romantically and sexually.
Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman that binds them together for life.This love is based on our relationship with Christ and is not dependent on feelings we may or may not have for a fellow-believer.Brother-sister relationships in Christ involve two foundational elements, commitment to fulfill the responsibility of a fellow-believer in Christ and care and concern a believer is to have toward other believers.Gen. says, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." This verse tells us that marriage involves the husband and wife severing ties of intimate relationships with parents to cleave to each other.It involves coming together into a permanent bond of unity.God is our Father and other Christians are our brothers and sisters in Christ. Our Father deeply loves and desires that we show love to each other, that is seek each other's highest spiritual good.1 Jn.3: 1 says, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God! " Gal.5: 13 says, “Rather serve one another in love.” Heb.10: 24 says, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” God desires that we serve one another in love by giving of ourselves to help each other grow in Christ as fellow-believers. But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed. If "dating" is defined as two single friends of the opposite sex doing things together for fun without any attraction or romantic desire or intimacy involved at all, there is no issue to discuss regarding dating. The Bible describes and gives directions concerning friendship.What about a romantic relationship without moving toward marriage?Isn't there another kind of relationship described in Scripture where a man and woman can share romantic intimacy with some physical intimacy without moving toward marriage? This kind of relationship does not exist in the Scriptures.