What is a player in dating

At town functions, he sometimes hangs out with the older woman and her husband and kids like nothing is going on. Anne Dear Anne, Thank you for asking such an important question. Players – and I know, since I’ve been one – are thinking purely of their selfish need to conquer new women.

Possibly derived from the phrases "play him for a fool", or "play him like a violin". A player uses manipulation to, well, play upon someone's emotions.

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I've noticed on this forum that many people seem to define a "player" as a guy that has sex with multiple women.

And that’s the sad thing about women who are attracted to players – the end result is always so predictable that, frankly, it’s a bit of a cliché. Next thing you know, he’s “the guy you’re seeing,” and he texts you a couple times a week, but almost never proposes dinner, weekends away, or phone conversations to talk. All because he MIGHT step up to the plate and become your boyfriend.

Since I like to be logical about dating, let’s think about a player in terms of risk/reward. Well, think about it: you gain a rush of pleasure – serotonin, dopamine, endorphins. Because if you look at your history with players, you never get anything else out of them. So now let’s evaluate the odds of the player becoming your boyfriend.